Daniel Covich Appears on the Dr. Phil Show
Teacher Who Slept With High School Student: ‘I Didn’t Think It Was Legally Wrong’
February 25, 2016
Tanya Ramirez was a 29-year-old high school teacher in Texas when she slept with a 17-year-old student, and although she pled guilty to an improper relationship between teacher and student, she says she doesn’t think she acted inappropriately.
“I didn’t think it was wrong. It never once felt like I was talking to a child,” Ramirez says of the teen with whom she had been texting for three weeks before the encounter. “I wasn’t thinking, wait a minute, I’m a teacher, because this was all happening outside of school.” She adds that they were both consenting adults, as 17 is the age of consent in Texas.
Ramirez says on the night of the encounter, the teen arrived at her house at 3am, and they went to her bedroom basically immediately. She claims that unbeknownst to her, the teen recorded part of the encounter and sent it to his friends – and that’s how their tryst became public and led to her termination at the school.
“When I found out there was a tape, I was in shock, felt betrayed. We had been talking for almost a month, so I trusted him that I could have sex with him and him not say anything, and we could keep it a secret,” Ramirez says in the video above. “I do, now, feel that I was set up. I do feel that there was some type of motive or intent to get it out there that he had sex with a teacher.”
Ramirez tells Dr. Phil she believes the teen may have set her up to gain “bragging rights” among his peers. “The fact that he hid his phone and then, obviously, as soon as it was finished, he distributed it to 11 of his friends, and from there, it went viral,” she alleges.
Ramirez, who is now suing the boy, accusing him of “extreme and outrageous” conduct and invasion of privacy, maintains that she did nothing wrong.
“I didn’t think it was legally wrong,” Ramirez states. “I know, obviously, with my profession, I crossed a boundary with the contract that I signed, but legally, I didn’t think I would be classified as a felon, being charged with having sex with a consenting adult.”
Why Teacher Who Had Sex With 17-Year-Old Student Is Suing Him And His Mom
February 25, 2016
Tanya Ramirez, a former teacher and coach at a high school in Corpus Christi, TX, admits that she slept with a 17-year-old student, and pleaded guilty to an improper relationship between teacher and student. But now, Ramirez, 31, is suing the student, Tristan, for invasion of privacy after he, she says secretly, recorded their romp, texted it to 11 of his friends, and then, she says, it was posted online. She is also suing his mom for defamation, after she publicly called Ramirez "a sexual predator" and accused her of sleeping with other students as well.
Ramirez recalls texting with Tristan for three weeks before they arranged for him to come to her house in the middle of the night on May 30, 2014, at which point they say they headed straight to the bedroom for, what Ramirez says was consensual sex. (Seventeen is the age of consent in Texas.)
"He had his phone in his pocket and then while having sex, he pulled it out, and I didn't see it. It's only about 10 seconds," claims Ramirez, referring to video Tristan admits he recorded. "When I found out there was a tape, I was in shock. I felt betrayed. We had been talking for almost a month so I trusted him that I could have sex with him and him not say anything, and we could keep it a secret. I do, now, feel that I was set up. I do feel that there was some type of motive or intent to get it out there that he had sex with a teacher."
Tristan, who was not Ramirez's student, says a friend drove him to Ramirez's house and then waited outside for him while he and the teacher had sex.
"When did you decide you were going to record this for posterity?" Dr. Phil asks.
"The reason, like, I recorded it was because I had been drinking before, so I was not really in the right mind. I remember talking to my friend about it, and he was just telling me that if you don't have proof [of sex with Ramirez] then I'm not going to believe you," says Tristan. "But I didn't mean to send it [the video] out. I accidentally sent it in a group message, which I really didn't mean to do."
But Ramirez, whose teaching license was revoked, says the damage is done. "I am taking legal action against both Tristan and his mother for invasion of privacy, videotaping the sexual encounter without my knowledge and then distributing it to his friends, and for emotional distress," she says. "I'm suing the mom because I feel it's not right to call out someone in the media. Now people look at me as a sexual predator. Her son was an adult at the time, and so he chose to have a sexual relationship with me. I want to get justice for what he did to me."
When Ramirez says she wants an apology from Tristan's mom, Kim, she tells Dr. Phil, "I am sorry that my son ever met Tanya Ramirez. That is the only apology that she will get from me."
Daniel Covich, the Texas attorney representing Tristan and his mom asks how a teacher who slept with a student at her school could think she is the one who was wronged. "We offered mutual releases many times," he says. "Everyone release everyone, and let's all go about our lives, and Ms. Ramirez refuses to do that."
He adds, "Why is a teacher having a 17-year-old male student at over 2 in the morning?"